I was hiking with a friend the other day and apparently we got off the trail somehow. I call it lost, not exploring! The trail was clearly marked but we were not paying close attention to the signs, so we were not on the trail.
When I’m not listening to God’s sweet voice, I lose sight of God’s purpose and plan for my life. I tend to make choices that cause roadblocks to God's best for me.
We ended up going through unmarked territory of thorns, snakes, and unknown creatures, and I suddenly became distrusting of the friend who was leading us. Sticks were in my hair, spider webs in my face, YUCK! This friend kept showing me this little blue dot and it’s relationship to the red line and assured me we were close to the marked trail that we needed to be on. He actually told me the little blue dot said walk through 20 creek beds in 40-degree weather with my hiking boots on! What? Trust the little blue dot?? I became cold, tired, and frustrated, not to mention my toes were numb.
My fearless friend was patient with me and wanted to continue going down the path we were on. I became bossy, impatient and insisted we go another way instead of following that darn blue dot and where it said we needed to go. “No! I want to do it my way.”
Sooo, he allowed me to trudge off in a direction that was slippery and thickly wooded. After bleeding and having my jacket destroyed, my friend tried to show me the little blue dot again and its relationship to the red trail. I finally raised my voice and said, “I don’t care about the little blue dot. I want to get to safety and a marked trail. I want to get to the waterfall.” He let me go my own way again, but eventually I gave up. Ugh!!
I finally submitted to the little blue dot and my hiking buddy and we found the trail that led to a beautiful waterfall that was majestic, peaceful, and refreshing. Such a calming place to rest and see God’s workman ship. Trusting and not fighting against the little blue dot really did create less chaos and quickly got us to our final destination.
I chuckled as I thought about my life and the resistance I give God in regards to His path for my life. I don’t always trust Him. I want to do things my way. God lets me try my own way for sure, knowing those painful lessons will bring me back to His loving arms and the path that is best for me.
So now, when I think of the little blue dot, it reminds me that I don’t have to always do things on my own. I can trust God and other people. I can enjoy the journey a little bit more knowing that His love is BIGGER and he just wants me to trust him in all things and enjoy the journey.
Proverbs 3:5-6 Trust in the Lord with all your heart and lean not on your own understanding; in all your ways submit to Him, and He will make your paths straight.
By: Laura Lee Baker, M.A., NCC, LPC
While jogging today (I say that loosely), I began to think about the seasons. When I think about all four of them, I realize it is important to not rush through them because I can enjoy all of them if I reflect on the purpose behind each one. I could look at the dried up creek bed and see it as a gross, disgusting mess and discard it as an eye sore. Or I can look forward to God's faithfulness and see the beauty and possibility. I can trust that the creek bed will be flourishing and gushing full of fresh water very soon. Beauty to be inhaled.
Spring is a time of planting and renewal. Summer is a time of growth and flourishing. Fall is a time of preparation and reflecting. Winter is a time of struggles and rest.
When I ponder the seasons of life, it is apparent that even during the cold, dark days of winter, such as the loss of a loved one, divorce, loss of a job, whatever the type of struggle, growth and positive change occur in my life if I allow it. If I focus on the hurt and the pain and not the hope of possibility, I can stay stuck in old patterns of defeat and anger.
It is important for me to reflect on the future and the areas I need to develop regarding my relationships as well as my future goals and not quit because the months seem so daunting and lonely. Spring is around the corner. God designed the seasons that way.
Transition can be hard, but fresh hope and life begin by trusting in the possibility of the future. I can plant seeds by investing in others and myself so that by the time summer comes I can bask in the beauty and freedom that summer brings. Even towards the end of summer, the heat can set in and if I am not careful my focus can go back to the past and the lessons I have learned can be forgotten.
I am thankful for the seasons and the constant repeat of rest, renewal, growth, and at times difficulties. But I know that I do not walk alone and my Father in Heaven will never leave me or forsake me. This is where hope and trust intersect.
We live today in a world where finding balance can be difficult in regards to weight control and eating habits. Statistics show that obesity rates are rising, as well as eating disorders, among young females. Obesity and Restrictive eating are similar, in that they are both destructive to a person’s physical and emotional health. The media portrays many mixed messages concerning “diet” and a healthy body image, which can be confusing.
Parents with good intentions can create problems by putting their children on “diets” or forcing them to rigidly exercise in order to lose weight. Exercise for children should be vigorous play that is fun!
Children should be taught to focus on the four food groups and portion control, not “dieting.” The word "diet" has negative connotations. Additionally, praising a child for being “thin” or losing weight, instead of praising them for their talents and gifts can be dangerous. Perfectionism and low self-image can develop from a rigid view of food and weight-control. Children tend to focus on what they believe is important to their parents. Modeling proper eating and exercising habits for overall health is the best way to teach our children.
On the other side of the spectrum, some parents attempt to love their children with sugary, fatty foods in hopes of managing behavior, which in turn hinders children from developing healthy eating habits. By doing this, parents are teaching their children to eat based on feelings, not fullness. Sugary, fatty foods make children lethargic, creating inactivity and over time may result in obesity. Scheduled family meals (yes mom, you need to sit down and eat as well) with regular balanced exercise, is vital in maintaining a healthy weight.
We don’t hear much about underlying emotional issues that drive unhealthy eating habits, whether it is restrictive or excessive in nature. Overly restrictive eating can be a result of unresolved issues and a lack of control in other areas of life. Excessive eating can come from a desire for comfort. Pushing feelings deep inside creates an emptiness that is never satisfied.
When you feed the desires of the flesh, you starve yourself from your lifeline to freedom! What this means is, whether you are over eating or restricting to cope with problems instead of dealing with them, you stay entrapped in this cycle of destruction. Practicing extreme measures in either direction is unhealthy.
Instead of using food or extreme weight control to ignore or mask emotions, acknowledge your feelings by talking or allowing your Creator to penetrate deep into your heart for complete restoration and healing. Balance will follow!
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