LEGACY STRATEGY
  • Home
  • Our Mission
  • Services
  • Our Team
  • Resources
    • Blog
    • Client Forms
    • FAQ
  • Contact

12 Lessons on Marriage: Lesson #9

7/17/2023

0 Comments

 
Picture

Understand Your Childhood Relational Experience

​​​​By: Jeff Pipe, PsyD

I would like to say a few things to you regarding the impact of your childhood home on your relational style.  Sometimes people fail to consider the impact of their parents influence because they had loving parents and no overt trauma in their childhood.  However, the relational/emotional learning that you experienced in your childhood home is unrelated to the nature of your parents love for you.  Whether your parents loved you - or loved you enough - is a separate question.  Honestly, it’s safe to assume that they loved you deeply.  Few parents don’t.  Further, the current quality of your relationship with your parents is equally irrelevant.  You may get along with them great as an adult, but that does not negate or substantially alter the emotional/relational learning that went on when you were a child.

At the very least, you must recognize that your parents personalities, ages and manner of relating formed the context in which you learned how to relate.  But, if you believe the Bible then we can be honest; your parents are sinful, broken, self-serving, self-protective people whose sin runs deep.  They screwed up as people and as parents.  We all did.  Denying the reality of their failure is not “honoring” of them; its dis-honoring of the Gospel that they embrace.  Because of their sin, your parents failed you in specific, concrete ways on a regular basis.  Their fears, weaknesses, wounds and deficits specifically impacted the way they related to you and their manner of relating formed the template from which you, in turn, learned to relate.  This has nothing to do with the strength or quality of their love for you or their spiritual maturity.  It is critical that you take ownership of their failure and forgive them so that you can get about the important business of understanding how their failures specifically informed your emotional/relational development.
0 Comments

Your comment will be posted after it is approved.


Leave a Reply.

    Legacy Strategy Blog

    Meet Our Team
    Contact Us
    Legacy Strategy, Inc. is a private counseling practice in Kennesaw, Georgia.

    Archives

    October 2024
    August 2024
    July 2024
    June 2024
    May 2024
    April 2024
    March 2024
    February 2024
    January 2024
    August 2023
    July 2023
    June 2023
    May 2023
    November 2022
    August 2022
    June 2022
    March 2022
    February 2022
    January 2022
    November 2021
    October 2021
    September 2021
    July 2021
    June 2021
    April 2021
    March 2021
    January 2021
    December 2020
    October 2020
    March 2020
    February 2020
    December 2019
    August 2018
    June 2018
    March 2018
    December 2017
    April 2017
    January 2017
    December 2016
    January 2016

    Categories

    All
    Amanda
    Chip
    Diane
    Jennifer
    Tray

    RSS Feed

HOME
SERVICES
CONTACT

Legacy strategy

1815 Old 41 Hwy NW, Suite 110,
Kennesaw, GA 30152


(678) 468.9103
Picture

© COPYRIGHT 2020 ALL RIGHTS RESERVED.
  • Home
  • Our Mission
  • Services
  • Our Team
  • Resources
    • Blog
    • Client Forms
    • FAQ
  • Contact